Tuesday, 14 June 2016

The Fear Of Rejection

Now I think it's only human nature to be scared of rejection. To be afraid of being turned down or to fail. I understand that I completely do, I mean I've lived my entire life just like this and boy is it hard to get over (especially recently, but I won't touch on that here, click THIS link to subscribe to my new weekly newsletter where I'll go into depth on my personal fear of rejection in an email towards the end of next week!) I'm going to be blunt. Not everyone is going to like you. You could be the loveliest person to ever exist and a select few will still find something to pick at or a reason to hate you, no matter how lame or petty it is. That's just life, and it says a lot more about them than it does you. To start getting over your fear of rejection that's the first thing you have to accept. Accepted it yet? Good, soon you'll no longer care because let's be real, it's not worth it. It's a part of life. Nothing will change that no matter how hard you try.


Now I've covered the whole "not everyone will like you DEAL WITH IT" part, I'm going to move on to rejection and failure and why they're a part of life. That boy you want to tell how you feel but you're too scared incase he says no? He's already made up his mind, you finding out won't change that and at least then you'll know. Knowing is always better. If someone doesn't like me I like to be aware of that. He doesn't want to date me? Okay his loss I'll move on and find someone else. I know that's a hard mindset to get yourself into, especially as rejection can really lower your self confidence, but you just have to understand that these things happen. Instead of avoiding rejection 24/7 like little old me, face it. It may hurt at first but in the long run it'll be so worth it and it'll make you such a stronger person. Take rejection as a good thing, as motivation to do better or be better. 

Lately I've been scared of the idea of failure, especially when it comes to blogging and etc. I feel like I'm failing which leads to feeling like I want to give up and that's just a big no. Even the biggest of people have failed, that's how they made it where they are! Did you hear about the amount of publishers that originally turned down Harry Potter?! Now look, JK Rowling could have given up right there and then, but she didnt. Next thing you know Harry Potter is one of the most famous franchises in the entire world. There's nothing you can do to avoid failure or rejection, just make sure you use it to better yourself as a person and to keep going. Take charge of your life and accept that everything's not always going to go your way, but in the end it'll all be so so worth it!

Quick note before I sign off, time for a tiny bit of shameless promotion. I thought I'd start a weekly newsletter to send out every Tuesday, it'll be jam packed with little snippets of new posts, personal stories that you can deffo learn from (I mean I'm not planning on embarrassing myself for nothing... I hope) and even a bunch of blogging tips, tricks, and plenty of helpful things! If you want to sign up for that you can HERE, I currently have about 1 subscriber so any help would be appreciated, I'm so new to this! Also if you have any suggestions on things I can include or how I can improve then be sure to tweet me.

Isabelle
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49 comments

  1. A MATURE post. Very true too. The vast majority fear rejection at some point in life, some at many points.

    In the long run it matters little. Things have a way of working out.

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  2. This is a really interesting post, I really enjoyed it and agreed with all your points, great post xx

    Zoe ♥ MammafulZo

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  3. such a thought provoking post, brilliant. Thanks for the follow love, following back :)

    lots of love, Jane
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  4. Such a nice read, will subscribe to the newsletter (want to hear some embarrassing stuff lol)

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  5. I couldn't agree more with what you said in this post & I love the example with the Harry Potter books you've mentioned! :) x

    Sara / AboutLittleThiings

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    1. thank you, and well of course I had to mention Harry Potter somehow aha! x

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  6. Hi! I'm lucky enough to come across your blog and read this. Don't be afraid to fail. :) It's part of life and just like what you've said, the persons who are well known and successful these days once failed too. You never know what might happen. Take risks and try! :)

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    SHAIRA // Beach bum

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  7. I hate the thought of rejection and failure. But I guess that it is something that happens in life and I need to just accept it. Lovely read Isabelle! Just subscribed :)

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    1. It's scary, but very true, thank you babe!

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  8. Lovely. Thanks for sharing!

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  9. This was such a lovely post!! Rejection hurts and sucks, but as you said it's a part of life. I've been feeling a lot of rejection from my ex lately, but overtime you do accept it more as horrible as it is, you do learn to let go. Thanks a lot for writing this xx

    Lauren | itslaurenvictoria.blogspot.co.uk

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    1. Thank you, once you accept it it doesn't hurt half as much, it's just hard getting there! xx

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  10. Great post all about life lessons! Thanks for sharing. We all go through it.

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    Xoxo, Maggie

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  11. Lately I've been feeling the fear of rejection and failure too but I realized it's just my own perception and I got to push through those feelings.Such a beautiful and inspiring read, subscribed to the newsletter. Love, Marina xx

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    1. Life gets so much easier when you do, thank you so much!! xx

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  12. Loved this! This is definitely something I struggle with and something I need to work on, I want everyone in this world to like me and I get so upset and offended when people don't because I try to be the nicest person I can possibly be and love everyone, but like you said I need to realize that not everyone can like you in life :)

    I subscribed to your newsletter aswell ♥

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    1. We're the same there, but if someone doesn't like you it's their problem not yours! Thank you so much, means a lot x

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  13. Failure is always a scary option and something I think we all struggle with thinking about. We can't please everyone or always succeed though. So worth trying!

    Amy Ann
    Straight A Style

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    1. Yes!! Thanks for the comment lovely :)

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  14. I couldn't agree you more than What You have written here. It's such a great and inspiring post. Sadly Failure and rejection is part of one's life, we just have to deal it with positive attitudes. Thanks for sharing!

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  15. Failure makes us stronger and helps us grow, we shouldn't be afraid to fail we should be afraid of giving up!

    XoXo,

    Tamara - LoveofMode.com

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  16. We are the first ones that must accept themselves once we do it, others we realise how cool we truly are. XoXo ♥

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  17. This is such a necessary post to write & talk about. It's so human to feel fear of being rejected. I have it, it holds me back & stops me doing things. I try to just tell myself the worst people can tell me is 'no' & what's the harm in that? It takes confidence to get past it. I love how you worded this & expressed yourself! :)

    Katie // Words By Katie

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    1. Thank you, and I completely agree! You can't avoid everything just because of the fear of 'no', it's not the end of the world :)

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  18. I'm glad someone has written about this. I found it it very interesting and totally agree with you! X

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  19. This is such an inspirational post!! I love your determination and positivity within this!! Love the idea of a weekly newsletter too :) xxx

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    1. Thank you!! I'm kinda scared by the whole idea because what if people don't like it, it's kinda daunting but! xxx

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  20. I think that there's so much more to rejection than just in the sense of someone you like turning you down, there's also things like job interviews, and that can be sooooo tough when you get rejected and turned down by so many job offers in a row. But like you said, it's how you deal with it that counts. If you turn it into a good situation to better yourself that's the way forward. And I love the story about JK Rowling, definitly motivates me to carry on trying even when I think I'm failing.

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    1. I forgot about things like that haha, I suppose that links in with the fear of failure too, and yesss I always turn to the JK Rowling story to inspire and motivate me!

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  21. Lovely post - lots of things to think about! Rejection can be tough, but it's important to keep at it :)
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  23. This is such an important topic to discuss and I enjoyed reading every word you've shared here, Isabelle. I love how real you are in stating that not everyone is going to like us, it's so very true and often, it's because of something really insignificant. I'm like you in wanting to know up front if a person doesn't like me, I won't use that in trying to convince them why they should. I just consider myself a loyal and encouraging person and so, I'd like to know upfront if it's best for me not to waste my time and energy on someone who's already made up their mind that they don't like me. I think I read somewhere that 10% of all people we meet in life will not like us and for no specific reason at all. While we can get hung up on that 10%, we could focus on the 90% who do! I also think that social media has fueled the feeling of rejection because it's feeds on the feeling of desired approval, with the amount of views, likes, and followers you have to seem relevant or to be considered successful, so knowing and accepting our own self worth and not relying on the approval and opinion of others is even more important today than ever before! Thanks so much for bringing up such an important topic, beautiful. Again, I really enjoyed the read; I hope you're having a great week so far!

    XO,

    Jalisa
    www.thestylecontour.com

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    1. Exactly! I always find myself too scared to find out if someone likes me or is interested in me and often I end up wasting my time, better to find out sooner than later. That's definitely super important, views or followers don't define your self worth whatsoever, I'm planning a post on a topic like that soon actually! Thank you so much for your comment lovely :) x

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  24. This is very true and interesting, thanks for sharing such an important topic xx

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